What is sex? What are the different kinds of sex?
Sex is defined differently by different people. There is no one definition of sex. Sex is often defined as:
Vaginal sex – when the penis is inserted into the vagina
Oral sex – when the mouth, lips or tongue contact the vagina, penis, or anus
Anal sex – when the penis is inserted into the anus
Genital to genital sex – when the genitals rub against each other
These types of sex run the risk of STI transmission but there are other less risky types as well, like hand to genital contact (i.e. masturbation, “fingering,” or “hand jobs”). Sex can be anything that feels good to you.
How do I discuss sex with my partner?
Discussing sex with your partner can be scary at first! It is completely normal to be nervous to talk about sex with your partner. Having a conversation, however, can lead to safer and more enjoyable sex for everyone.
Questions to ask your partner to get the ball rolling:
What turns you on?
What turns you off?
Is there anything you want to try in bed?
What birth control method should we use?
Have you been tested for STIs?
Are there any boundaries I should not cross?
Be Honest. If you are clear with your partner about what you like and what you don’t like, your partner will understand your needs better.
Be Open. Everyone has different sexual preferences. Respect your partner’s and ask them to respect yours.
Be Understanding. Not everyone is ready to try everything. Remember you need an enthusiastic “yes” for the sex to be consensual.
Talking about sex can be sexy!